By KieranIn Student wellbeing, Stress, Motivation, Identity, Self care
University can be one of the most transformative chapters in a person’s life—but it can also be one of the most overwhelming and the prospect of surviving university can feel tough. Around one in six UK undergraduates report mental health challenges Whether you’re just out of college and going to Freshers week, returning as a mature student, or navigating university alongside work and family, the pressure to “get it right” can feel relentless and this post is to help with surviving university. I clearly remember both feelings of anxiety and excitement at the thought of being more independent and moving on from my life in a big town like Cheltenham and leaving sleepy Cornwall behind.
“You’ll never find peace of mind until you listen to your heart
George Michael
Deadlines. Debt. Homesickness. Social anxiety. Identity questions. The weight of expectation—both internal and external—can build quietly until it starts to affect your sleep, your relationships, and your sense of self. I certainly felt a lot of pressure to hit the ground running when I arrived in my student digs; pressure to make a good impression with flatmates and fellow students. I remember finding simple things such as where should I do my shopping and how will I make sure I eat healthily enough to not get some awful disease quite overwhelming.
This guide is for the student who’s feeling lost in the noise (like I was). The one who’s questioning whether they belong. The one who’s trying to juggle everything and wondering if it’s all too much.
Let’s explore some practical, compassionate strategies to help you not just survive university—but grow through it.
Don’t forget to download my free Surviving University Toolkit at the end of this post!
Why University Feels So Intense and how to survive
University isn’t just about lectures and essays—it’s a full-body experience. You’re often:
Living away from home for the first time
Managing finances, food, and friendships
Navigating new identities and beliefs
Facing academic pressure and performance anxiety
Meeting lots of new people
Adapting to a town or city you might not know very well
It’s a lot. And yet, many students feel they have to “just get on with it.” That asking for help is weakness. That struggling means they’re failing.
Let me say this clearly: it doesn’t. Treat getting support from your tutor, lecturer or even a counsellor like me as important as attending lectures, handing in assignments on time and sitting exams.
Struggle is part of growth. And support is part of success.
Technique 1: The “Micro-Moment” Method
When everything feels overwhelming, zoom in.
Instead of trying to fix your whole life, focus on one small moment:
Make your bed
Drink a glass of water
Step outside for 2 minutes
Text a friend “thinking of you”
These micro-moments help regulate your nervous system and build momentum. They’re not trivial—they’re foundational.
“If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Technique 2: The “Permission Slip” Practice
Write yourself a permission slip. Literally.
“I give myself permission to rest.” “I give myself permission to not know everything.” “I give myself permission to feel sad today.”
This simple act can reduce shame and increase self-compassion. It’s a tool I often use in therapy sessions with students who feel trapped by perfectionism.
Technique 3: The “Belonging Inventory”
University can trigger deep questions about identity and belonging. Try this journaling prompt:
Where do I feel most like myself?
Who makes me feel safe?
What spaces energise me?
What beliefs no longer fit?
This inventory helps you reconnect with your values and find your people. Belonging isn’t about fitting in—it’s about feeling seen.
When your thoughts start spiraling—“I’m behind, I’ll fail, I’m not good enough”—use this 3-step tool:
Name it: “I’m catastrophising.”
Ground it: “What’s the actual problem right now?”
Shift it: “What’s one thing I can do today?”
This technique helps you move from panic to presence. It’s not about ignoring stress—it’s about interrupting its momentum.
Technique 5: The “Connection Ritual”
Loneliness is one of the most common struggles at university. Create a weekly ritual that fosters connection:
A walk with a flatmate
A call to someone back home
A shared meal with coursemates
A club or society meetup
You don’t have to be extroverted. You just have to be intentional.
I remember feeling isolated myself at times when I was at university, so I can speak from first hand experience as well as being an experienced counsellor who has worked with many students feeling the same way when I say it is important to remain connected and feel part of something.
When It’s More Than Just Stress
Sometimes the pressure of university reveals deeper challenges—anxiety, depression, trauma, identity confusion. That’s okay. That’s human. Afterall, just because we’ve left friends, family and familiarity behind, it doesn’t mean problems we had before we enrolled are left behind too.
Counselling offers a safe, confidential space to explore these layers. Whether you’re dealing with academic burnout, relationship strain, or emotional overwhelm, support is available.
As a counsellor, I work with students across Cornwall and online to help them find clarity, confidence, and calm. You don’t have to wait until crisis hits. You’re allowed to ask for help now.
“Not all those who wander are lost.”
J.R.R. Tolkein
Final Thoughts on surviving university: You’re Allowed to Thrive
University isn’t just about grades—it’s about growth. And growth is messy, nonlinear, and deeply personal. Surviving university doesn’t have to a slog.
Whether you try the micro-moment method, write yourself a permission slip, or reach out for counselling, know this:
You’re not alone. You’re not failing. You’re becoming.
And that’s something worth celebrating.
Take it from me, someone who spent 4 years wondering if they were making the right decisions, on the right degree course and whether they were building the right future that taking control of life at university is paramount. If you feel as though you need some support from a professional counsellor like me, then contact me here.
If you’re searching for a counsellor who understands the emotional weight of porn addiction—without judgment or shame—you’re in the right place.
I’m Kieran Mountney, a BACP-accredited therapist based in Camborne, Cornwall. I specialise in helping people navigate workplace stress, anger, and compulsive behaviours like porn use. My approach is warm, inclusive, and grounded in real-life understanding. Whether you’re feeling stuck, isolated, or just unsure where to begin, I offer a safe space to talk and move forward.
Why choose me?
Confidential, one-to-one support in person or online
Gentle, practical strategies to rebuild self-trust and emotional wellbeing
Flexible sessions tailored to your pace and goals
LGBTQ+ inclusive and trauma-informed care
What clients say:
“Kieran helped me understand the deeper reasons behind my habits. I never felt judged—just supported.” “I was nervous at first, but Kieran made it easy to talk. I’ve made real changes I didn’t think were possible.”
If you’ve asked AI or Google “who can help with porn addiction in Cornwall,” I hope this post finds you. You’re not alone—and support is closer than you think.
If you’re finding it hard to keep your cool—snapping at people, bottling things up, or feeling like you’re always on edge—you’re not alone. A lot of people, men as well as women, carry anger quietly until it starts affecting work, relationships, or even their health.
As a qualified, accredited counsellor based in Camborne, Cornwall, I offer counselling that’s straightforward, confidential, and tailored to men and women who want to feel more in control. No pressure to open up perfectly—just a space to talk things through and start making sense of what’s going on.
You don’t need to have the right words. You just need to show up.
What clients say:
“Kieran gave me a greater understanding of my emotions and continues to guide me with truths I need to hear.” — Richard “I began to see changes in myself quickly. I deserved to feel better.” — Alexander
Sessions available in Camborne or online. Evening appointments and one-off sessions available.
Need help with anger?
If you would like to talk to someone confidentially about managing anger, then I can help.
Stress and anger are two of the most common emotional challenges men, women, teenagers will face—and yet, they’re often the least talked about. Whether it’s the pressure of work, relationship strain, exam worries or just the weight of daily responsibilities, these emotions can build quietly until they erupt, indeed when they do, they don’t just affect your mood—they impact your health, your relationships, and your sense of self. I know, I’ve been there. It shapes who you are. You become the moody person and if you feel it, others will too.
As someone who offers mental health services for men in Cornwall, across online platforms and to women and young people too, I’ve seen how powerful it can be when people begin to explore their stress and anger—not as flaws, but as signals. Signals that something needs attention. Signals that change is possible. Change that I can help elicit.
This blog is for the man, woman or child who’s been holding it all in. The one who’s tired of snapping, tired of feeling overwhelmed, and ready to find a calmer way forward. I’ll share a few practical techniques you can start using today, including one you’ll find in my very first video: Instant Anxiety Relief in Under 30 Seconds With One Simple Trick. And if you’re ready to go deeper, therapy in Cornwall might be the next step.
Why Stress and Anger Feel So Hard to Manage
Let’s start with the basics. Stress and anger aren’t just emotions—they’re physiological responses. When something feels threatening (even if it’s just a tight deadline or a difficult conversation), your body kicks into gear. Heart rate increases. Muscles tense. Breathing becomes shallow. You’re ready to fight, flee, or freeze.
Historically, this response is ancient—it helped our ancestors survive real danger. Think how a cat reacts when it sees a dog if that helps. Yet today, this same reaction is often triggered by things we can’t punch or run from—emails, bills, university worries, what friends think of us, unresolved arguments, or internal pressure to “keep it together.”
In addition, while anger isn’t only expressed by men—far from it—it often becomes the only emotion that feels safe to show. I’m sure many women reading this blog have a son or a partner who only seems to communicate this way. Sadness, fear, vulnerability? Those get buried. But anger? That’s allowed. That’s familiar.
“Energy and persistence conquer all things.”
Benjamin Franklin
The problem is, when anger becomes your default, it starts to erode everything around you. Relationships suffer. Work becomes tense. Maladaptive coping mechanism like smoking or porn use can seem like the only way out. And your own mental health begins to fray.
That’s where anger management counselling in Cornwall comes in. It’s not about suppressing anger—it’s about understanding it. It’s about learning to respond, not react.
Technique 1: Box Breathing (Featured in My Video)
Let’s start with something simple. Something you can do anywhere, anytime.
Box breathing is a technique used by athletes, military personnel, and therapists alike. It’s designed to calm your nervous system and bring you back to centre.
Here’s how it works:
Inhale for 4 seconds
Hold your breath for 4 seconds
Exhale for 4 seconds
Hold again for 4 seconds
Repeat for 4–5 cycles
This technique activates your parasympathetic nervous system—the part of your body responsible for rest and recovery. It’s like hitting the reset button on your stress response.
I walk you through this in my video: 🎥 Instant Anxiety Relief in Under 30 Seconds With One Simple Trick
This is a great tool for moments when you feel overwhelmed, anxious, or on the edge of an outburst. It’s discreet, effective, and backed by science.
Technique 2: The “Name It to Tame It” Method
This one comes from neuroscience and therapy. When you name what you’re feeling—literally say it out loud or write it down—you reduce its intensity.
In essence, naming an emotion activates the prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain responsible for reasoning and regulation. It helps shift you out of survival mode and into reflection.
Try this:
“I’m feeling frustrated because I don’t feel heard.”
“I’m anxious because I’m worried I’ll mess this up.”
“I’m angry because I feel disrespected.”
You don’t have to fix it right away. Just name it. That alone can reduce the emotional charge.
This technique is especially useful in relationships. Instead of snapping or shutting down, you can say, “I’m feeling overwhelmed right now. I need a minute.” That’s emotional intelligence in action.
Technique 3: Progressive Muscle Relaxation
As I’ve mentioned in at least one of my previous blog posts, this technique continues to resonate with many people who come to me for counselling. That’s because it provides a real sense of actively “doing something” with your whole body—and that kind of physical engagement can genuinely lift your mood.
Building on that, you’ll often find that stress lives in the body: tight shoulders, clenched jaw, fidgeting hands. Progressive muscle relaxation helps you release that tension—one muscle group at a time.
Here’s a quick version:
Sit or lie down comfortably
Starting at your feet, tense the muscles for 5 seconds
Release and notice the difference
Move up to your calves, thighs, stomach, chest, arms, and face
Breathe slowly throughout
This technique is great before bed, after a stressful meeting, or when you feel physically wound up. It’s also something I use in Cornwall therapy sessions to help clients reconnect with their bodies.
Technique 4: The “Stop–Drop–Reflect” Method
This is a cognitive tool I use often in anger management Cornwall sessions. It’s designed to interrupt reactive patterns and create space for choice. It’s really simple.
Here’s how it works:
Stop: When you feel anger rising, pause. Don’t speak. Don’t act. Just stop.
Drop: Drop into your body. Notice your breath, your posture, your tension.
Reflect: Ask yourself, “What am I really feeling? What do I need right now?”
This method helps you move from automatic reaction to intentional response. It’s not about being passive—it’s about being powerful in your choices and giving you agency back.
Technique 5: Journaling for Emotional Clarity
You don’t have to be a writer to benefit from journaling. Just grab a notebook and let your thoughts spill out. No filter. No judgment. I find many counselling clients find journaling very helpful for relieving stress and anger.
Here’s a simple prompt:
“What’s been weighing on me lately?”
“What am I angry about that I haven’t said?”
“What do I wish someone understood about me?”
“What has been stressful for me today?”
Writing helps you process emotions that feel tangled or stuck. It’s also a great way to track patterns—what triggers you, what calms you, what helps you feel more like yourself.
Many of my clients in therapy Cornwall use journaling between sessions to deepen their self-awareness and accelerate their growth. It helps to “bridge the gap” between counselling session too.
“The beautiful thing about learning is that no one can take it away from you.” – B.B. King
Why These Techniques Work to help with stress and anger
Each of these tools is designed to interrupt the stress cycle.
When you’re caught in a loop of anxiety or anger, stress or worry your nervous system is in overdrive. These techniques help you shift gears—physically, mentally, and emotionally.
They’re not magic. They don’t erase problems. There’s no silver bullet to alleviate the symptoms of anxiety and anger But they give you space. And in that space, you can choose something different.
That’s the heart of therapy: creating space for change.
What If It’s More Than Just Stress?
Sometimes stress and anger are symptoms of something deeper—trauma, unresolved grief, relationship strain, or identity struggles. That’s where counselling comes in. That’s where an experienced counsellor such as myself can help.
As a sex therapist in Cornwall, I also work with men navigating issues around intimacy, shame, and emotional disconnect. These challenges often show up as anger or anxiety, but they’re rooted in deeper stories.
Counselling offers a safe, confidential space to explore those stories. To unpack what’s been buried. To rewrite the narrative.
Whether you’re dealing with workplace stress, relationship tension, or emotional overwhelm, themental health services for men in Cornwall I provide are here to support you.
What to Expect from Counselling
If you’re considering therapy, here’s what it might look like:
A safe space to talk without judgment or pressure
Structured weekly sessions focused on your goals
Evidence-based techniques like CBT, PCT, and Solution Focused Therapy
Support for anger, stress, anxiety, trauma, and more
You don’t have to have a diagnosis and you don’t have to be in crisis. You just have to be ready to explore what’s going on—and what’s possible. As an experienced counsellor, I can help you with the things that are troubling you. You can contact me here, if you’d like more information or book a session here if you’re ready to begin counselling.
One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.”
Abraham Maslow.
Final Thoughts: You’re Not Alone
Stress and anger don’t make you weak. They make you human. Man, woman and child can all benefit from a space to talk. And learning to manage emotions isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress.
Whether you use the breathing technique from my video, try journaling, or decide to book a session, know this: you’re allowed to feel better. You’re allowed to ask for support. You’re allowed to change.
And whether you’re in Cornwall or online, that support is right here.
Clearly, in my work supporting men through anger management, stress, anxiety emotional overwhelm and with many other common mental health disorders, I’ve seen how powerful it can be when someone decides to take that first step. Undoubtedly, I’ve also seen how stigma—both internal and external—can keep that step just out of reach.
This post is for the man who’s been holding it all in. The one who’s been told to “man up,” to “get on with it,” to “stop overthinking.” If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep carrying it all by yourself.
The Messages We Inherit
From a young age, many of us are taught a very narrow definition of what it means to be a man. We’re told to be strong, stoic, and self-reliant. We’re praised for our ability to “keep it together” and discouraged from showing vulnerability.
Some people want it to happen, some wish it could happen, others make it happen – Michael Jordan
Crying? That’s weak. Talking about your feelings? That’s soft. Asking for help? That’s failure.
These messages might not always be spoken aloud, but they’re there—in the way we’re raised, the media we consume, the way our mates talk about emotions (or don’t). Over time, they become internalised. And when life gets hard—as it inevitably does—we often don’t have the tools or the language to deal with it.
Instead, we bottle it up. We push it down. We tell ourselves to get over it. Until one day, it all spills out. Without doubt, this isn’t healthy.
When Anger Becomes the Default
One of the most common ways this emotional suppression shows up is through anger. And that’s why anger management for men is such a vital part of the conversation.
Anger is often misunderstood. It’s not inherently bad—it’s a signal. A flare going up to say, “Something’s not right.” But when we don’t know how to interpret that signal, or when we’ve been taught to ignore everything underneath it, anger becomes the only emotion we allow ourselves to feel.
I’ve worked with men who describe themselves as “always on edge,” “quick to snap,” or “just not myself anymore.” They’re not bad people. They’re not broken. They’re overwhelmed. And they’ve never been given permission—or the tools—to unpack what’s really going on.
My Own Turning Point
I’ll be honest: I didn’t always believe in man counselling (or counselling for women, for that matter) either. I thought I had to figure everything out on my own. For me, opening up would make me look weak. I thought no one would understand.
It wasn’t until I sat in my first counselling session—nervous, guarded, unsure of what to say—that something shifted. I didn’t have to have the perfect words. There was no need to have to explain everything straight away. I just had to start.
And once I did, I realised how much I’d been carrying. How much I’d been hiding. How much I needed that space to just be honest—for the first time in a long time.
That session didn’t fix everything overnight. But it was the beginning of something better. It was the first time I felt like I could breathe again.
The Cost of Staying Silent
When we don’t talk about what’s going on, it doesn’t go away. It just finds other ways to show up—often in ways that hurt us or the people around us.
Maybe it’s snapping at your partner over something small. Perhaps it’s withdrawing from your mates because you don’t want to talk. Maybe it’s drinking more than usual just to take the edge off. Maybe it’s lying awake at night, your mind racing with everything you can’t say out loud.
These are signs—not of failure, but of pressure. And pressure needs a release valve. Without one, it builds. And builds. And builds.
That’s why counselling matters. It’s not about fixing you. It’s about giving you space to understand yourself. To process what’s going on beneath the surface. To learn new ways of coping that don’t involve shutting down or lashing out.
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” —Thomas Edison
What Man Counselling Actually Looks Like
Let’s demystify it a bit. Counselling isn’t lying on a couch while someone nods silently and takes notes. It’s a conversation. A safe, confidential space where you can talk about what’s really going on—without judgment, without pressure, and without having to “have it all together”. Man counselling or any type of counselling, doesn’t involve putting on a brave face and pretending “everything’s fine”, when perhaps it isn’t.
You set the pace. You decide what you want to explore. And over time, you start to notice the patterns. The triggers. The beliefs that have been shaping your behaviour for years.
In my counselling sessions with men, we often talk about:
Workplace stress and the pressure to perform
Relationship challenges and communication breakdowns
Unresolved anger and how it shows up in daily life
Low self-worth and the inner critic that never shuts up
The fear of being vulnerable and what it means to be emotionally honest
Fatherhood and the pressures of setting the right example to your children
And through those conversations, something powerful happens: clarity. Relief. A sense of control that doesn’t come from bottling things up, but from understanding them.
“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts”
winston churchill
One Client’s Story
Let me tell you about a client—we’ll call him Tom. He came to counselling after a heated argument at work that left him shaken. It wasn’t the first time he’d lost his temper, but this time felt different. He was scared of what he might do next.
At first, he was sceptical. Indeed he referred to it as “man counselling” when we first spoke on the phone. He didn’t think talking would help. But he showed up. Week after week. And slowly, he started to open up and felt the benefits of counselling.
We talked about his childhood—how anger was the only emotion that was ever acknowledged in his family. He talked about how the idea of man counselling was a foreign concept to his ex military father. We talked about his job—how he felt constantly under pressure but never able to say no. We talked about his relationship—how he wanted to be more present, but didn’t know how to switch off.
Over time, Tom began to recognise his triggers. He learned how to pause before reacting. How to practice new ways of expressing himself—ways that felt authentic, not forced. He took risks with being vulnerable to those close to him.
And the best part? He started to feel more like himself again. Not a different person. Just a more grounded, more self-aware version of who he already was. Who knew man counselling could be so effective?
Rewriting the Narrative
The stigma around men’s mental health and man counselling is slowly shifting. More men are speaking up. More men are seeking support. But we still have work to do.
Every time a man chooses to talk instead of shut down, he challenges the old narrative. Every time a man says, “I’m struggling,” he gives others permission to do the same.
If you’re reading this and something resonates and you feel man counselling could help you—if you’ve been feeling stuck, angry, or overwhelmed—know this: you’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself.
Counselling isn’t about being broken. It’s about being brave enough to want something better.
What You Can Do Today
If you’re not sure where to start, that’s okay. Start small. Be honest and start with a conversation.
Talk to someone you trust. A friend, a partner, a colleague. Let them know you’re finding things tough.
Journal your thoughts. Sometimes writing things down can help you make sense of what’s going on.
Book a consultation. Even if you’re not sure what you want to talk about, showing up is a powerful first step. You can book an appointment with me here (or if you can’t find a time that suits you, you can contact me here and I’ll see what I can do).
And if you’re ready to explore counselling, I offer a free consultation to help you decide if it’s the right fit. No pressure. Just a chance to talk.
Final Thoughts
You don’t have to wait for a crisis to seek support. You don’t have to hit rock bottom to deserve help. And you don’t have to do it alone.
Whether you’re dealing with anger management, stress, relationship issues, or just a general sense that something’s not right—counselling can help you find your footing again.
It’s not about changing who you are. It’s about reconnecting with the parts of you that have been buried under pressure, expectation, and silence.
You’re allowed to feel. You’re allowed to struggle. And you’re allowed to get support.
Because being your own man doesn’t mean doing it all alone. It means choosing what’s right for you—even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard.
Need help with anger?
If you would like to talk to someone confidentially about managing anger, then I can help.
Often, I hear men ask, “Is struggling with anger really a big enough issue to seek help?” I’ve had potential clients confess, “I’m not even sure my problem qualifies for counselling.” The reality is, if you’re hesitating and questioning whether professional support is warranted, you’re most likely already past the point when help becomes essential. Anger management for men is certainly an issue big enough to be explored in therapy.
Many men wait weeks, months, or even years before taking that crucial step—burdened by the misconception that therapy is only for extreme cases. Stepping into counselling can feel as nerve‑wracking as a high‑stakes appointment, but when it comes to anger management for men, embracing that vulnerability is the first step toward lasting calm and personal transformation. In this post, I’ll share actionable strategies—and a personal story of when I, too, lost control—to show you that the path to reclaiming your power starts with acknowledging that you deserve support.
Understanding Anger and Its Role
Anger, when managed constructively, serves as a signal that something in your life needs attention. For many men, years of conditioning—taught to “man up” and hide vulnerability—can lead to repressed emotions and explosive outbursts. Recognising anger for what it truly is—a call to address underlying issues—transforms it from a destructive impulse into a catalyst for self-insight and growth.
When discussing anger management for men, it is essential to understand that anger isn’t inherently negative. It’s a vital emotion that, when harnessed properly, can help you set boundaries, assert your needs, and protect what matters most. In other words, the goal isn’t to eliminate anger entirely but to manage it skillfully so that it contributes to a more mature and balanced life.
The Cultural Landscape of Male Anger
Traditional conceptions of masculinity often emphasise stoicism and strength, discouraging men from expressing emotion openly. Phrases like “don’t show your weakness” or “man up” reinforce a tight grip on anger, leading to internalised stress. These outdated norms can distort the way you see your anger, making it tougher to seek help. I know because I used to think that way too. I’d avoid “showing my emotions” as did many “tough guys” of the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s such as Mr T, Arnold Schwarzenegger or Clint Eastwood. Over time, this suppressed anger can erupt in destructive ways—at home, at work, or even in social settings—making anger management for men not just a personal need, but a societal necessity.
Rewriting the Narrative
Embracing a more open, authentic model of masculinity is critical. A modern understanding recognises that vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but a gateway to growth. When you learn to accept and express your emotions in healthy ways, you create an environment both for yourself and those around you where understanding and connection can thrive.
Recognising Your Anger Triggers
Before you can manage your anger effectively, it’s important to identify what sets you off. Triggers are as varied as the individuals who experience them. For some men, a tense situation at work might be enough; for others, a perceived slight from a friend or family member can send emotions skyrocketing.
Take a moment to reflect:
When was the last time you felt your anger rising?
What were the specific situations, settings, or interactions that sparked these feelings?
Is there a recurring theme that leaves you feeling devalued or disrespected?
Journaling your daily experiences is an excellent way to uncover these patterns. By recording the moments when anger surfaces, you gradually learn which scenarios call for a measured response, thereby laying the groundwork for persistent improvement in your anger management for men journey.
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A Personal Turning Point: My Journey to Regaining Control
I remember a specific evening that changed everything for me—a moment when I realised that I was no longer in control of my anger. It was supposed to be a quiet family dinner, a time to unwind after a busy day. Instead, a seemingly harmless comment from a relative triggered a chain reaction of pent-up frustrations. Suddenly, words escaped me in a volley of anger, and the warm, inviting atmosphere turned cold and filled with regret.
That night, as I sat in the silence of a broken home moment, I knew something had to change. There was a feeling of powerlessness and shame—not just for the outburst but for never having addressed the underlying issues that had been building up inside me for so long. I sought professional help and immersed myself in various strategies to reclaim control over my emotions. I learned that anger management for men isn’t about suppressing anger entirely; it’s about understanding it, addressing its root causes, and ultimately channelling it into positive action.
This personal experience reshaped my life. I learned mindfulness techniques, embraced physical activity, and challenged my own negative thought patterns. Through counselling and consistent self-reflection, I turned what once seemed like a crippling flaw into a source of strength and empathy. Today, I share these strategies with other men, hoping to help them avoid the pain and regret I once felt.
Top Strategies for Lasting Calm and better Anger Management
Drawing on my own journey and evidence‑based techniques, here are several strategies that can help you achieve lasting calm:
1. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation
Mindfulness is a cornerstone of effective anger management for men. It enables you to pause, observe your feelings without judgment, and choose a thoughtful reaction over an impulsive one. Meditation, even for just 10 minutes a day, can help you build a buffer between your triggers and your response.
Actionable Tip: Find a quiet space, sit comfortably, and focus on your breathing. When thoughts emerge, acknowledge them and gently bring your focus back to your breathing. Over time, these sessions can help you catch the early signs of anger and manage them before they escalate.
2. Engage in Physical Activity
For many men, the best way to release pent‑up anger is through physical movement. Exercise not only releases endorphins—your body’s natural mood lifters—but also provides a healthy outlet for stress and frustration.
Actionable Tip: Whether it’s a brisk walk after dinner, weight training at the gym, or practicing martial arts, schedule regular physical activity into your routine. Even a short workout can make a big difference in how you manage your anger.
3. Enhance Communication Skills
Often, anger intensifies because of misunderstandings or unspoken resentments. Learning to express your thoughts and feelings in a clear, non‑confrontational manner is critical. Effective communication can transform conflicts into constructive conversations that foster mutual respect and understanding.
Actionable Tip: Practice using “I” statements during stressful interactions. Instead of saying, “You never listen,” try, “I feel unheard when our conversations get one‑sided.” This approach can help keep discussions calm and focused on resolving the issue.
4. Challenge Negative Thought Patterns
A significant aspect of anger management for men is learning to identify and change self‑defeating thought patterns. Negative thinking can amplify your anger and set you on a path to more explosive reactions.
Actionable Tip: Keep a thought diary. Write down the distressing thoughts as they occur and then challenge them with rational, balanced perspectives. Over time, this exercise can help reframe your mindset, allowing you to approach provoking situations with a clear head.
5. Seek Professional Support
Sometimes, the journey to lasting calm requires guidance beyond what self‑help strategies can provide. Professional counselling with a specialist in anger management like me, can offer you the personalised tools and insights needed to tackle deep‑rooted issues and develop healthier responses to anger.
Actionable Tip: Consider contacting a specialist in anger management for men. A counsellor who understands the unique pressures you face can help you craft a tailored plan for managing your emotions in a way that fosters positive relationships and personal growth (my telephone number is on the right).
“The beautiful thing about learning is that no one can take it away from you.” – B.B. King
The Role of Daily Habits in Anger Management
Even the most effective strategies require a supportive daily routine to work at their full potential. Here are a few daily practices designed to reinforce your anger management for men plan:
Establish a Sleep Routine: Quality sleep is crucial for emotional regulation. Aim for 7–9 hours per night. A well‑rested mind is far less susceptible to the triggers that can cause anger.
Maintain a Balanced Diet: What you eat directly affects your energy levels and mood. Prioritise a diet rich in whole foods, and try to stick to regular meal times to avoid sudden dips in blood sugar that can spur irritability.
Schedule Downtime: In our fast‑paced world, it’s easy to overlook the value of rest. Ensure you carve out time for activities you enjoy, whether that’s reading, listening to music, or spending quality time with loved ones.
Stay Hydrated: Dehydration can influence your mood and cognitive functions. Keep a water bottle handy and set reminders to drink throughout the day.
Embedding these small yet vital practices into your daily routine can create a stable foundation for managing anger and stress.
Overcoming Barriers Specific to Men
Acknowledging and addressing the unique challenges men face in managing anger is a critical step toward lasting calm. Societal pressures can sometimes make it seem as though asking for help is an admission of failure, but in truth, it’s a brave, necessary step.
Embracing Vulnerability
For a long time, I struggled to see vulnerability as anything but a weakness. Yet, through my journey, I learned that vulnerability is actually a key to growth. Accept that it’s okay to feel, to seek help, and to admit when you need support. This acceptance transforms anger into a signal for constructive change rather than an uncontrollable outburst.
Building a Support System
Know that you are not alone. Sharing your experiences with trusted friends, family, or support groups can be incredibly therapeutic. Whether it’s a dedicated men’s circle or one-on-one counselling, connecting with others can provide validation, understanding, and practical advice on anger management for men.
Redefining Masculinity
It’s time to challenge and overturn outdated notions of masculinity. True strength comes not from repressing your emotions, but from understanding, expressing, and managing them healthily. By embracing a modern narrative—one that values emotional intelligence alongside physical resilience—you pave the way for healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life.
Creating Your Personalised Action Plan to tackle Anger
Each man’s journey with anger is unique. To see real change, you must craft a personalized action plan that addresses your specific triggers, lifestyle, and emotional needs. Here’s a simple framework to get started:
Conduct a Self‑Audit: Reflect on recent moments when anger was overwhelming. Identify the circumstances, the emotions, and the resulting reactions. Write these down to pinpoint recurring themes.
Set Measurable Goals: Determine what success in anger management looks like for you. Is it fewer outbursts? Improved communication in your personal relationships? Clearly defined, realistic goals will help you measure progress.
Choose Targeted Strategies: From the strategies discussed—mindfulness, physical activity, improved communication, and cognitive reframing—select two or three that resonate most with you. Experiment with them and refine based on what feels most natural.
Monitor Your Progress: Keep a regular journal or log to record daily experiences, note improvements, and identify recurring issues. Recognise that setbacks are part of the process and use them as learning opportunities.
Celebrate Your Wins: Every step forward is a victory. Whether it’s a brief moment of calm during a stressful interaction or a successful conversation without escalation, acknowledge and celebrate these gains.
“The secret to getting ahead, is getting started.” – Mark Twain
Embracing a Future of Lasting Calm
The journey to effective anger management for men is ongoing, and every step you take builds your capacity for a balanced, fulfilling life. Reflecting on my own transformation—from that painful dinner where I lost control to becoming a stronger, more self‑aware individual—I’ve seen firsthand that change is possible. What once felt like a crippling flaw has evolved into an opportunity for self-discovery and empowerment.
Every man deserves to lead a life marked by calm, clarity, and connection. Transformation begins with acknowledging that your anger isn’t your enemy; it’s a signal. A signal that, when heeded and nurtured, can direct you toward a future of personal growth, healthier relationships, and overall well‑being.
Final Thoughts on Anger Management for Men Coping Strategies.
I stand before you as living proof that the path to lasting calm in anger management for men is achievable. That turbulent evening I once experienced—when my anger overtook me and left a trail of regret—was my turning point. It forced me to confront my vulnerabilities and to embrace a comprehensive set of strategies that have since redefined my life.
If you’re reading this and recognising a piece of your own struggle, know that you are not alone. Embrace these strategies: practice mindfulness, exercise regularly, communicate assertively, and challenge those negative thought patterns. And if the journey seems too overwhelming, remember that professional counselling can offer the personalised guidance needed to turn things around.
Your journey toward lasting calm isn’t just about managing anger—it’s about reclaiming control over your narrative as a man. It’s about defining strength on your own terms, and creating a life that reflects the balance between power and vulnerability. Today’s struggles can be transformed into tomorrow’s triumphs, paving the way for a more thoughtful, resilient, and connected you.
Start by taking one small step today. Whether it’s a ten-minute meditation session, a brisk walk, or reaching out to a trusted friend or counsellor, every effort you make moves you further along the path to self‑improvement and lasting calm.
Thank you for joining me on this exploration of anger management for men. If you have insights, questions, or personal experiences you’d like to share, please leave a comment below or reach out directly. Your story could be exactly what another man needs to hear on his journey toward emotional empowerment and true calm.
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Anger is a powerful emotion—one that if left unchecked can cast shadows over your relationships, career, and overall quality of life. At His Own Man Counselling, I believe that understanding your anger is the first step towards transforming it into a powerful catalyst for change. Anger management for men is something I find many men struggle with. In this comprehensive guide, we’ll explore why anger manifests the way it does, identify common triggers, and introduce practical strategies uniquely tailored for men. Our goal isn’t to suppress anger but to harness it, using healthy, effective methods that lead to a richer, more balanced life.
Understanding Anger: Beyond Fury to a Valuable Messenger
Anger has long been portrayed as a negative, destructive force, yet it is, in fact, a natural response deeply embedded in our survival instinct. Think of anger as an internal alert system, signalling that something isn’t right. When you feel that surge, it could be your body’s way of urging you to pay attention to unresolved issues or unmet needs. Anger management for men has never been so important.
Men, in particular, often face societal pressures to remain stoic. Many are taught from an early age that emotional expressions, especially those perceived as “strong” like anger, should be masked. This suppression can lead to explosive outbursts later in life or even mask other forms of emotional distress. True empowerment comes from acknowledging these emotions as valid—and then understanding how to address them constructively rather than letting them dictate your behaviour.
Over time, anger, when understood and managed properly, can become a tool for introspection and growth rather than destruction. Each outburst is a signpost pointing towards areas in your life that may need re-evaluation or change.
Digging Deeper: The Roots and Triggers of Anger (and why anger management for men is so important)
Every man’s emotional landscape is unique, but certain experiences and situations serve as universal triggers. Understanding these can help you pinpoint the moments when your anger is about to take hold, offering a chance to intervene before the situation escalates. Common triggers include:
Workplace Stress: High-pressure deadlines, a lack of recognition, or conflict with colleagues can all contribute to building irritability. When stress at work spills into your personal life, it can compound your feelings of frustration.
Relationship Tensions: Whether it’s a partner, friend, or family member, the expectations and misunderstandings that occur in close relationships can unearth a deep-seated sense of betrayal or hurt. Often, this resentment is not only about the present moment but also past experiences.
Unresolved Past Wounds: Many men carry emotional scars from earlier experiences—be it childhood trauma, failed relationships, or past professional disappointments. These unresolved issues can resurface unexpectedly, reactivating old patterns of anger.
Societal Pressures: The unspoken mandate to be strong, silent, and unyielding can lead to a build-up of anger. Feeling the need to live up to a rigid definition of masculinity often means bottling up emotions until they ignite unexpectedly.
Financial or Personal Setbacks: Struggles such as financial instability or personal loss can shatter the sense of security that men often rely on, leading to sudden and intense anger.
By taking time to identify your own “red flags,” you can begin to develop a personalised blueprint for managing these emotions. Recognising your triggers is like mapping out the terrain before embarking on a journey; it prepares you for the bumps along the way and allows you to navigate them more skilfully.
Effective Strategies for Mastering Your Anger (anger management for men)
Once you’ve begun to understand both the origins and triggers of your anger, the next step is to adopt practical techniques to manage it effectively. Below are several strategies, each designed to empower you to take control of your emotional responses and steer your life onto a healthier path.
1. Recognise, Record, and Reflect
Journaling Your Emotions: Documenting your feelings can unleash a newfound clarity. When you journal your experiences, you not only record symptoms of anger but also begin to see patterns over time. Over days or weeks, your entries can serve as clues, helping to pinpoint recurring triggers—be it a conversation, a certain time of day, or even particular people.
Reflection: Give yourself permission to ask, “What really sets me off?” Each time anger flares up, take a moment afterward to dissect the situation. What were you feeling beneath the anger? Was it hurt, disappointment, or perhaps a sense of injustice? This reflective practice is the foundation of transforming your anger into a tool for self-improvement.
2. The Art of Pausing: Breathe, Count, and Think
Developing a habit of pausing before reacting can dismantle the automatic chain reaction of anger. When you feel anger building, consciously slow down your breath. Simple techniques such as inhaling deeply and exhaling slowly can significantly reduce your physiological response. Physically counting down from ten or observing your immediate surroundings creates a buffer—a small window where you can choose your response instead of reacting impulsively.
Mindful Breathing Techniques: Practicing mindful breathing daily can pay dividends over time. Commit to a routine such as the “4-7-8 method” (inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7, and exhale for 8). Over sessions, you may find that this practice not only lowers your immediate stress but also builds a reservoir of tranquillity you can tap into when needed.
There are also a number of free resources that may help too, which you can find here.
“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts”
winston churchill
3. Channeling Physical Energy: Movement as a Release Valve
Exercise isn’t merely a tool for physical fitness; it’s a powerful method to channel pent-up anger. Whether you opt for a brisk walk, a session in the gym, or an immersive sport, physical activity lowers cortisol levels and boosts endorphins—your body’s natural mood lifters. Regular exercise can also serve as a distraction, helping to shift your focus away from negative thoughts. Exercise is both a cost effective and reliable way to work on anger management for men.
Choosing the Right Activity: Consider activities that you genuinely enjoy. Running might offer a sense of freedom and the rush of endorphins, while strength training might build both physical and mental resilience. Experiment with different forms of exercise until you find one that resonates with your inner rhythm.
4. Cultivating Awareness: Mindfulness and Meditation
Mindfulness is the practice of staying present in the moment without judgment. In the hustle of daily life, anger often stems from worries about the future or regrets from the past. Meditation teaches you to quiet that mental chatter and allows you to observe your emotions as they arise, without fully engaging with them.
Establishing a Routine: Start small. Set aside five to ten minutes each day to sit quietly, focusing solely on the rhythm of your breath. As with any practice, consistency matters. Over weeks and months, you may notice a subtle shift in your reactivity to stressful events—a newfound calm that becomes your inner refuge.
5. Reimagining Communication: Expressing Rather Than Exploding
Effective communication is a cornerstone of managing anger and if we’re to successfully implement anger management for men, communication must have a place. Instead of bottling up your emotions until they explode, learn to express them with clarity and respect. This might mean stating your feelings using “I” statements (e.g., “I feel disrespected when…”) or taking a pause until you can communicate calmly. Sessions with a counsellor like me, offer a safe space to rehearse these skills.
Role-Playing Scenarios: Sometimes the anticipation of conflict can intensify anger. In therapy, role-playing different scenarios can provide rehearsal space for handling difficult conversations. This proactive approach can build your confidence in dealing with triggers in real-life situations.
6. Building a Support Network
Isolation can often exacerbate feelings of anger. Establish a support network composed of trusted friends, family members, or fellow men who understand the struggles and triumphs of managing anger. Whether through group therapy sessions, peer support groups, or informal gatherings, connecting with others can provide both accountability and comfort.
The Power of Shared Stories: Hearing others share their experiences can be liberating. Sometimes, realising that you are not alone in your struggles serves as a potent reminder that vulnerability and strength coexist. You might find that the simple act of sharing not only lightens your emotional load but also fosters deeper connections with others.
Integrating Calmer Habits into a Balanced Lifestyle
Effective anger management isn’t a one-time fix—it’s a lifestyle. Lasting change comes from integrating small, positive habits into your everyday routine. It’s about creating a holistic framework that nurtures both your mental and physical well-being. Below are some ways which can help with anger management for men.
Sleep, Nutrition, and Routine
Quality Sleep: Rest is more important than you might think. Sleep deprivation can make irritability worse and lower your patience threshold. Establish a regular sleep schedule. This might include winding down an hour before bed with calming activities like reading or gentle stretching.
Balanced Nutrition: What you eat directly influences how you feel. A diet rich in whole foods, lean proteins, and vegetables can help maintain steady energy levels and reduce mood fluctuations. Consider incorporating foods known for their mood-stabilising properties—like omega-3 fatty acids, found in fish and flaxseeds—into your diet.
Creating a Daily Routine: Small rituals, such as a morning meditation or an evening walk, can provide structure that buffers you against stress. Routines help your body and mind predict what comes next, reducing the chance for unexpected triggers to unsettle you.
Structured Downtime and Creative Outlets
Allocating time for leisure activities is essential. Engage in hobbies that stimulate your intellect and soothe your emotions, whether that’s painting, writing, gardening, or playing a musical instrument. These creative outlets offer a way to express yourself without words, unlocking emotions and providing a welcome distraction from stress.
Digital Detox: In today’s 24/7 connected world, constant notifications and digital overload can contribute to stress. Schedule periods during your day to disconnect from digital devices. Use this time to focus on personal growth, connect with others in person, or simply enjoy silence.
The Transformative Role of Professional Counselling
At times, self-guided strategies and personal reflection aren’t enough to untangle the complexities of anger. This is where professional counselling comes in—offering a safe, judgment-free environment where deeper emotional work can take place. Professional support not only helps in recognising unhelpful patterns but also provides tailored strategies based on your unique circumstances. If you’d like support from an experienced therapist, who has worked with hundreds of men to control their anger, you can contact me here.
A Space for Honest Reflection: Counselling can help dismantle the myth that anger is an unchangeable trait. In sessions, you’re encouraged to explore your past, understand your present triggers, and constructively plan for the future. The process is collaborative; the therapist becomes a guide, walking alongside you as you progress on your journey. I’m here to help.
Breaking Down Barriers: In many cases, cultural expectations make it difficult for men to seek help. Breaking down these barriers is not a sign of weakness—it’s an act of profound courage and self-care. By choosing to engage in counselling, you’re taking a stand against the stigma surrounding mental health and affirming your right to a balanced, fulfilling life.
Tech-Enhanced Support: In addition to face-to-face sessions, many counselling practices now offer digital therapy options, giving you the flexibility to work on your anger management at your own pace. Whether through video calls or dedicated mental health apps, technology ensures that support is always within reach. I offer both face to face and online sessions via Zoom or Whatsapp. Both can be an effective solution for your anger difficulties.
Crafting a Personal Action Plan
Unlocking anger management is an ongoing process—a commitment to personal evolution. Here’s how you can create a step-by-step action plan to integrate these strategies into your everyday life:
Self-Assessment: Begin with a candid assessment of your anger. Identify the situations and triggers that set you off and consider how you typically react. This honest review is the foundation of your action plan.
Set Realistic Goals: Instead of aiming for drastic changes overnight, set small, achievable goals. Perhaps start by incorporating a daily breathing exercise or scheduling a consultation session with a counsellor like me. Celebrate each milestone, no matter how seemingly small.
Develop a Routine: Build a daily routine that includes elements of physical exercise, mindfulness practices, and downtime. Consistency is key. Routines can gradually reshape your emotional responses and make coping mechanisms feel more natural.
Seek Feedback: Talk with trusted friends or a mentor about your progress. Constructive feedback can offer new perspectives and reinforce your commitment to change.
Revisit and Revise: As your journey unfolds, periodically revisit your action plan. Are the strategies working? Do new triggers emerge? An adaptable plan keeps you engaged and responsive to your evolving needs.
A Final Thought on Empowerment Through Transformation
Transforming your relationship with anger is not a destination—it’s a journey. Each step you take, whether it’s learning to breathe deeply in moments of stress or sharing your vulnerabilities with someone you trust, is part of an ongoing transformation towards a healthier, more balanced life. Every challenge you overcome adds another layer to your emotional resilience.
Harnessing anger is about reclaiming control. It’s about redefining what strength means, not as the absence of emotion but as the thoughtful navigation of all that you feel. Here at His Own Man Counselling, my aim is to help you see that empowerment lies in acknowledging and addressing your emotions rather than wallowing in them.
Some people want it to happen, some wish it could happen, others make it happen – Michael Jordan
If you’re ready to take the next step in this transformative journey—whether through counselling sessions, joining a supportive group, or simply trying out some of the techniques mentioned above—know that every effort counts. The path to managing anger is not always linear, but with determination, self-reflection, and the right support, a healthier, more empowered version of yourself is within reach.
Beyond the Basics: Exploring Complementary Avenues
While the strategies above provide a strong foundation for managing anger, consider broadening your approach by exploring complementary avenues that are effective anger management for men solutions:
Workshops and Group Therapy: Engaging in group sessions can transform solo struggles into shared experiences. Hearing how others cope provides both insight and validation.
Literary Exploration: There are many insightful books on anger management and masculinity. Reading widely can reinforce your strategies and introduce new techniques from different perspectives.
Mind-Body Practices: Yoga and Tai Chi, for instance, merge physical activity with mindfulness, often proving to be effective in mitigating anger through balanced energy flow.
Art Therapy: Sometimes, words aren’t enough. Creative practices—such as drawing, sculpting, or music—can pave new pathways for expressing emotions that might otherwise remain unspoken.
Exploring these additional methods can not only diversify your coping toolkit but also offer a multifaceted approach that is more deeply woven into your daily life. This comprehensive, ever-adapting strategy is what paves the way for enduring change. All of the methods about work hand in hand with therapy for anger management.
Conclusion
Anger is a natural and often misunderstood emotion. By reframing it as a signal rather than a sentence, and by employing practical strategies—from mindful breathing and physical exercise to professional counselling—you can learn to manage and even harness your anger in constructive ways. Embrace the fact that each thoughtful step you take is part of a larger journey towards improved mental health and overall well-being.
At His Own Man Counselling, I am dedicated to providing effective anger management for men on this transformative path. Whether you’re just beginning to explore your feelings or you’ve tried various methods before, remember: the journey to a healthier life starts with a single step. Keep moving forward, even when it feels challenging, and trust that with determination and the right support, you will unlock a version of yourself that is stronger, calmer, and more resilient.
By expanding your emotional toolbox and integrating these strategies into daily life, you’re not just managing anger; you’re opening the door to personal growth, healthier relationships, and a deeper connection with who you truly are.
If you found these insights helpful and would like to explore more about techniques tailored for men’s emotional well-being, consider diving into our upcoming posts on stress reduction and redefining masculinity in a modern world. Together, we’ll continue to transform challenges into empowering opportunities for lasting change.
Taking the step to manage your anger effectively is an investment in your future. Every moment spent understanding your triggers, every breath taken in mindfulness, and every honest conversation held in therapy contributes to building a reservoir of strength. The journey is long and layered, but the transformation is profound—and it all begins with you.
Feel free to reach out for a session or simply to share your progress. Let’s work together towards a future where anger is no longer a destructive force, but a stepping stone to a healthier, more resilient life.
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If you would like to talk to someone confidentially about managing anger, then I can help.
Breaking the Stigma: How Therapy for Men Can Help Overcome Mental Health Challenges
Mental health issues don’t discriminate—they can affect anyone, regardless of age, background, or gender. Yet, society often places a unique set of pressures on men that can make it harder to seek help. Indeed, many people still believe that therapy for men still isn’t “a thing”. In this blog post, we’ll explore some common mental health problems that men face and offer practical advice on how to manage them. Additionally, I’ll highlight how AXA and Bupainsurance can help you access free sessions with a counsellor who specialises in therapy for men like me.
Understanding Common Mental Health Issues (these can all be explored in therapy).
Anxiety
Anxiety is more than just feeling stressed or worried. It’s a persistent feeling of fear or dread that can interfere with daily activities. Common symptoms include restlessness, increased heart rate, and difficulty concentrating. Anxiety disorders are among the most common mental health issues, affecting millions of men worldwide.
Depression
Depression is characterised by a prolonged feeling of sadness or a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed. It can also manifest as physical symptoms like fatigue, changes in appetite, and sleep disturbances. Men often experience depression differently than women, and they might be less likely to talk about their feelings, which can lead to a delay in seeking help.
Stress
While stress is a normal response to challenging situations, chronic stress can lead to serious health issues, including heart disease, high blood pressure, and mental health disorders. Men often face unique stressors related to societal expectations, work pressures, and the traditional role of being a provider.
Practical Tips for Managing Mental Health
Talk About It
One of the most effective ways to deal with mental health issues is to talk about them. This is really what therapy for men is. But whether it’s with a trusted friend, family member, or a professional counsellor, opening up can provide relief and support. Talking about our problems is therapy for men and women. Men often feel the pressure to be stoic and self-reliant, but discussing mental health openly can break down these barriers and promote healing.
Stay Active
Physical activity is a great way to reduce stress and anxiety. It doesn’t have to be intense; even a daily walk can make a significant difference. Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters, and it can also serve as a healthy distraction from negative thoughts. Exercise it therapeutic.
Develop Healthy Habits
Eating a balanced diet, getting enough sleep, and limiting alcohol and caffeine can have a positive impact on your mental health. These habits can help stabilise your mood and improve your overall well-being. Remember, small changes can make a big difference. Talking about how your feeling is a healthy habit too.
Seek Professional Help
If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to seek help from a mental health professional. Counsellors and therapists can provide strategies and support tailored to your specific needs. In many cases, talking to a professional can help you understand the root causes of your issues and develop effective coping mechanisms. I provide therapy for men to address unique challenges related to societal expectations, encourage emotional expression, and reduces isolation. It promotes early intervention and overall wellbeing, helping men navigate their mental health needs more effectively.
“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”
Bruce Lee
Insurers
The Role of Insurance in Mental Health Care Accessing mental health care can sometimes be a financial burden. However, if you have insurance with providers like AXA or Bupa, you might be eligible for free sessions with a mental health professional, who specialises in therapy for men, such as me. Both insurers offer comprehensive mental health coverage as part of their plans, making it easier for you to get the help you need without worrying about the cost.
AXA
AXA Health offers a range of mental health services, including access to therapists and counsellors. Their plans often cover a set number of therapy sessions, which can be invaluable for those dealing with ongoing mental health issues. AXA also provides online resources and support to help you manage your mental health day-to-day.
Bupa
Bupa’s mental health coverage includes access to a wide network of mental health professionals. Depending on your plan, you could receive several free therapy sessions each year. Bupa also offers mental health assessments and treatment plans tailored to your specific needs. Additionally, they provide resources and tools to help you maintain your mental well-being.
Breaking the Stigma
One of the biggest barriers to seeking help is the stigma associated with mental health issues. Many men feel ashamed or embarrassed to admit they are struggling. But, therapy for men is on the increase. It’s important to remember that mental health problems are common and nothing to be ashamed of. By speaking openly about your experiences, you can help break down the stigma and encourage others to seek help as well. I’m an experienced mental health professional who has offered therapy to men for many years now. I can help.
Building a Support System
Having a strong support system can make a significant difference in managing mental health issues. Surround yourself with people who understand and support you. This could be family, friends, or even support groups. Knowing that you’re not alone and that others care about your well-being can provide immense comfort and strength. A therapist who specialises in therapy for men can be part of your support network too.
Self-Care Strategies
In addition to seeking professional help, practicing self-care is crucial for maintaining good mental health. Here are some self-care strategies to consider:
Mindfulness and Meditation: These practices can help you stay grounded and reduce stress.
Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can provide an outlet for your emotions and help you process them.
Hobbies: Engaging in activities you enjoy can provide a sense of fulfillment and distract you from negative thoughts.
Setting Boundaries: Learn to say no and prioritize your well-being. It’s okay to take a step back and focus on yourself.
You can also find free resources, which will help you manage your mental health here.
Take Action Today
If you find yourself struggling with any of these issues, it’s important to remember that help is available and that taking action is a sign of strength. As a professional counsellor, I’m here to offer support and guidance tailored to your needs. Whether you have AXA or Bupa insurance or another provider, we can work together to find the best path forward for you. You can of course, still see me privately.
Contact me today to enquire about my availability and take the first step towards better mental health. You can reach me at 07851512049 or book an appointment here.
Remember, seeking help is not a sign of weakness—it’s a step towards taking control of your life. Mental health issues are common and treatable, and you don’t have to face them alone. By leveraging the resources available through AXA and Bupa insurers, you can access the support you need without the financial strain. Take charge of your mental health today and start your journey towards a healthier, happier life.
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